When we get nervous, we make excuses. We make excuses not to love ourselves or take care of ourselves. Sometimes life is just busy, we are too crazy at work, or always have to drive someone SOMEWHERE. Sometimes it’s more important to spend time with our spouse. We also use excuses like “I wanna lose 15 lbs first!” and “I just don’t have the money right now!”. I wanted to write this to show you all that no matter the excuse, you CAN do it! Let me show you that no matter the excuse, you are worthy of self love!
“I don’t have enough time for myself”
It’s also important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you’re not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else, which makes sense but is actually much harder said than done! Sometimes I am the WORST at making sure I am giving myself mental health breaks and that’s why I think it’s so important to share this with you all. I make the same excuses as above and sometimes I need someone to look me in the face and say, “SLOW DOWN, give yourself a break, breath for a minute!”.
At a boudoir shoot you are able to breath and love yourself for a few hours. Think of all the energy you’ll save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others, or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look. You get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a huge mental weight.
You need to take time for yourself, why not spend it having an amazing time and getting glammed up for once?
“I’m not where I want to be weight wise/I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough size”
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of American females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT.
I will say this over and over again (and sorry, not sorry if you’ve heard me say it before), but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a stranger's messed up idea of a perfect body to LOVE your own body? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no 2 women are the same!
I think it’s amazing to have goals and want to get healthy, but does that mean you have to hate your body to do those things? Absolutely NOT! You should love yourself every step of the way. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going. Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now, and then have one when you lose that 15 lbs to celebrate how far you’ve come!
“I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me.”
This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot!
Often times we lose touch with our femininity or sexuality when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work. It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal and okay! A great way to find this side of ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot done to out that spark back in us. I can show you that you have that inside you somewhere, and it might even ignite a spark between you and your spouse as well!
Another thing to remember is that you don’t HAVE to wear super sexy clothing/ lingerie. If you feel like this doesn’t show your personality, then there are so many other outfit ideas. If you need ideas, I will gladly talk to you about them or you can check out our blog on finding outfits here!
“A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now.”
Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment. It is also an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well! Many photographers offer payment plans! In order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer, and after that you can set up your payment plan for the remaining so that it might be easier to book a shoot! Learn more on Abigail Gingerale Photography.